What is Rizz and is it Enough to Attract the Right Person?

“Hey, nice to see you again.”

Me: “Hi.”

“I was going to leave, but I think I’ll stay now that I saw you.”

Me: *swoons, dies*

Those were words whispered to 16-year-old me at a birthday party, words that gave Denise major kilig (Filipino for butterflies) as a teenager. In the past, my grandparents would have said he was trying to “woo” me. Back in 2000, someone would have said that he was trying to “holla” at me, or that he had “swagger.” Today’s kids would say that he had rizz. 

What is Rizz?

According to USA Today, rizz stems from charisma and means “someone’s ability to flirt and be charming.” The word itself had the prestige of being the 2023 Oxford Word of the Year. It’s popular with teenagers, who have been known to “rizz up” people they’re attracted to. And of course, there’s the more elusive “unspoken rizz,” when someone can have rizz without even saying anything. The person’s aura itself is something attractive. 

Streamer Kai Cenat made the word rizz popular in 2022 and has since taken off on almost every social media platform. Gen Z is super savvy about slang and if you’re not up to date on social media, you’ll fall far behind. Exhibit A: I’m still saying “lit” when it’s not a thing anymore (or is it?).

Now, there are a few reasons why teenage Denise crushed hard after hearing those words. First of all, let’s get one thing straight – it’s not necessary to be stereotypically physically attractive to have rizz.

Maybe this holds truer for the ladies because I know a lot of my lady friends who married their husbands because their husband’s humor made them attractive (in their eyes.). 

The boy I mentioned earlier was 17 years old, had bad acne, and wore very trendy tight pants,  (it was cool back then) and wore sunglasses even at night (kinda weird, kinda hot!) But he had a confidence that crossed the line into attractive territory and I wasn’t the only girl falling for it. 

Let’s break it down. Here are the factors that contributed to teen crush’s rizz:

1. He made me feel special He said he was going to leave! But my allure made him stay!
2. Body language When he said those words, he whispered them, amid dozens of people around. Then looked into my eyes after. That message was for ME.
3. Follow through We sat together for the rest of the evening and talked. He asked me questions and was engaging. 
4. He was trendy! He had a middle part like Ryder Strong from Boy Meets World and wore colored tinted sunglasses which has proven to make people seem more attractive. 

By the end of the night, I was in love. But in true teenage fashion, he had to fly back home the day after, and we lost contact forever. It wasn’t meant to be, but all these years later, I haven’t forgotten how special he made me feel. 

Signs You Might Have Rizz

Ok, so if everything I’ve mentioned above sounds familiar to you, but you’re unsure if you have rizz, then the only way to find is to see how others respond to you. Take a moment to think about how people react when you’re around. 

1. You’re the life of the party.   When you go to a social gathering, do you have an easy time finding people to talk to? If you find yourself effortlessly becoming the center of attention, it’s probably because you’re oozing with charisma and everyone wants to be around you!
2. Positive vibes only. Take note of the mood people are in when they’re around you.  If they’re kind of grumpy and you can lighten their mood, then I have good news, you’re not only a cool person but you probably have rizz and you have a knack for making others feel good!
3. Influential. You notice that you can rally a group of people easily.  Whether it is to support a cause, persuade others to see things from a different perspective, or simply lead by example, your ability to inspire action and move people says a lot about who you are and your rizz-ability!

It takes a special kind of confidence and je ne sais quoi to have rizz. You can’t just dive in thinking it’s easy! Perhaps it’s something to practice with a trusted friend who will tell you the truth. 

How to Practice Rizz if You Don’t Have It

Parade says, “If you have rizz, it means you have a harmonious mix of confidence, magnetism, and attractiveness that people find charming.” What we say and how we say adds to our charm.

Words should from the heart, but some of us need help and inspiration through pick-up lines. While some rizz pickup lines I feel are too corny to even take seriously (i.e.“Are you tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.”), I look to my most trusted rizz database, which are Korean dramas. 

Ask any addict and they will tell you that a steady stream of butterflies fuels their desire to push through for one more episode late into the night. When I say these men (and women!) have rizz, I’m speaking as someone who has blushed at 1 am and giggled into a pillow. 

Here are the 10 best rizz pick-up lines you can start with:

1. “I like you. Not because you’re beautiful, but because when I look at you, I see a future full of happiness.” Healer
2.  “If I imagine that I’m sitting here working next to you, even awful tasks like these turn into something beautiful. Work becomes bearable.” My Liberation Notes
3. “You’re someone who I always want to get to know. That’s why I want to see you.” Yumi’s Cells
4.  “You’re already perfect. You’re the only one who doesn’t know that.” At A Distance, Spring Is Green
5. “I’d always feel like something very important was missing. And I had trouble sleeping. But you found that for me. The missing piece.” Crash Course in Romance
6. “The way you looked at me made me feel like I could do anything with you by my side.” Forecasting Love And Weather
7. “From the moment I first saw you, my scenery has been you.” Love Rain
8. “It’d be hard to forget anybody who looks as good as you do.” A Business Proposal
9. “You came into my life like a gift.” Crash Landing On You
10. “If you’re going to cry in front of me about a different man, stop being so pretty.” My Girl

But is Rizz Enough? 

Remember, rizz is all about confidence, charm, and making people food good, and while that’s enough to spark an interest, you’re going to need more than that to fuel the fire of attraction. 

1. Have something to offer.  Everyone wants to find someone they can learn from. Whether it’s cooking, budgeting, or travel hacking, bring something to the table so that your partner can benefit from your presence.

2. Show them you’re ambition. Nobody wants to have a lazy or complacent partner and there’s something undeniably sexy about someone with passion, someone who has goals and works towards them. Now, we understand that life is a work in progress and goal setting can be a challenge, but keep working and don’t give up!

3. Be kind. Being moody, rude, and disrespectful can disqualify you from being a love interest really fast.  Kindness is something simple but goes a long way.  Showing empathy, and compassion, and treating others with warmth and respect will add to your rizz! 

When you’re feeling brave enough to shoot your shot, turn on that rizz and go for it, but if you experience rejection, don’t feel discouraged, it’s a natural part of the process and it won’t last forever! I should know, after kissing many frogs, I finally found my prince charming and he is brimming with rizz! 

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